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Remembering Dad

Posted on Jun 5th, 2008 by Sugar : Catalyst Sugar
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There isn't a day that goes by that I don't think about my dad, Eddie. He left this planet 29 years ago, two months after my daughter was born.  The memories are a respite for me and when I go back in time I find myself giggling when I think about our weekly game of Hide & Go Seek. He would find the weirdest places to hide us kids and when he stuffed my sister into the top of the linen closet, we never did find her. Maybe not such a bad thing. (Just kidding) Eddie's legacy lives on in his wife and children along with a community of people whose lives were touched by his very presence. He was a truly unique person and I cherish the time that I got to spend with him. So Happy Father's Day Dad!

So, if you're lucky enough to still have your dad and  you're standing between the tie and boxer aisle, try to remember, that it's the little things that make the difference.


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Forgiving

Posted on Jun 11th, 2008 by Sugar : Catalyst Sugar
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The universe is so forgiving and I for one am grateful for the experiences that I keep being faced with.

I'm hoping that by sharing a small series of experiences it may help to put things into perspective and maybe, just maybe help one person have a better day! 

After distributing a marketing piece for my business, in our small town,  I was contacted by a woman that I serve on a community board with, but I've never met. She explained that I had improperly used a word on the flyer and then went into 2 additional paragraphs to teach me the rules of proper grammar. 

I read the email. 
Who is this person?
Closed the email. 
Opened it again. 
Read it again. 
Closed it again.
Opened it one more time.
Typed a response.
Proofed the response.
Saved the draft.
Got coffee.
Came back opened the draft. 
Switched words around.
Closed the draft.

Then it dawned on me. How many emotions did I just go through?
What do I possibly think I'll gain by responding to this?

I clicked open the draft and deleted it. 
Gone and forgotten....until yesterday.

While attending one of the community meetings,  I was confronted by this woman when she overheard someone calling my name. She walked over to me and in mixed company, told me point blank, "You're the one that doesn't know how to use proper grammar."  (nice to meet you too:))

Silence fell over the circle of people.  All I could think is where's the delete key? 

So many things could have happened!
But I have time.
I have hope.
I truly love.
And...I don't have to play if I don't want to. 

Nail biter, isn't it?:)

By waiting to let the attack settle, I went through a myriad of emotion. I wasn't prepared to answer so I didn't.  

After she was done teaching me (and 6 others) about herself, I looked into her eyes and kindly said, "Thank you".  

If I were playing a game it would appear that I let her win and you'd be right!  She may not realize right away what the prize was but she owns it and I'm happy that I had the chance to give it to her. 

I've chosen to  step outside of my life and take a really long look at what is going on around me, I can adjust my vision any way I see fit.  Since I am separate from it I don't have to think, I can just look and if I can last long enough without spouting off,  things will start to come into focus. 

My purpose isn't to get people to change their minds. 

My purpose is to get me to change mine.

Have a wonderful day.
Mara

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